the fabulous life of a queer femme in action
I just saw this interview with Hermann Maier, aka “The Herminator”, where he states that he won’t go to the winter olympics in Russia because of the country’s stance on homosexuality. Wow! New unexpected ally! Why does it then still make me feel a bit weird? Why don’t I appreciate it as I “should”? Well, maybe it’s because even though (hetero) allies are really cool and much needed, I’m getting tired of heterosexual white men being the new voice in fighting homophobia. I’m not blaming the Herminator here. Or Grönemeyer for smooching a dude in a magazine. Whatever rocks your boat and you believe in. I’m blaming everybody else who makes them into heroes for doing something that should go without saying from the start. They are being celebrated for not being assholes. And still “nobody” (= the mainstream media) wants to start the discussion about how utterly twisted our society is when we raise our eyebrows in wonder every time a hetero guy opens his mouth to say something good. Something anti-discriminatory. Hallefuckingluja. Queer people and women/feminist movements regardless of sexual orientation have been screaming for decades that we have to stop homophobia. No one used to care. But then Mr ManMan steps in and holds a stuttering speech about how everybody is “normal”, and all of a sudden the discussion is going on full blast about how discrimination and phobias are maybe not so cool. I know. I know. I fucking know. We live in patriarchy and this is how it is. It’s just that I am soooo tired of it. I do not want a white heterosexual man to be the voice of my struggle, our struggle. I don’t want sexism, racism, homophobia, ableism to be dealt with only when The Man says so. When The Man is ready to handle it. When The Man tells Houston that we have a problem. “But it’s good! People listen to him! Like this we can have the change that we’ve been fighting for!” I’m sorry. It’s not good enough for me. This is going in the wrong direction. I want people to realize that oppression sucks even if they hear it from Dyke Dykerson.
Denice suspects that she is trying to simplify a complicated issue to prove her point. Don’t judge her too hard.